Is our relationships with each other broken?

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Wow, you don’t even ask anymore. Screw me!

“Don’t worry about it. I will let you know when it gets too much. It was slightly irritating but it’s not your fault.It sounded reasonable and I was grateful.

If you really want to thank me, do xyz for me.

You know you didn’t need to say this to get me to do stuff for you right? I prefer to do it because I want to help you not to simply return a favor.

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What I think at the core of our broken relationships is the hesitation to give, the fear of being taken advantage of, and ultimately, of being hurt. We think of scarcity not abundance: if I provide you with X then I am short of X. While, in fact, the most priceless value we can provide, love, is infinite.

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It seems to me the key to foster connections is to stop keeping a book. I can just focus on giving and hope for the best. Whether others reciprocate or not is their task that I have no control over. All I can do is to have some blind faith in the goodness of others. If they reciprocate in the future, it’s a win-win; if not, it’s just as if I have donated that love.

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“Thank you so much for driving. Just want to let you know that I am here if you ever need anything.”

May I be happy, healthy, and safe.

May he be happy, healthy, and safe.

May all beings be happy, healthy, and safe.

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